I was talking to a dear friend recently and we had a discussion about our young adult children in their early 20s. One is overseas and the other states away.
They are both hard working and responsible kids that tend to make practical decisions about their life goals and their future. They are on their own far from home, though, and they are young. We were questioning some of their decisions amongst ourselves–tattoos, drinking with friends, living arrangements, and playing video games in their spare time. They are generational things that we may never understand, but can be overlooked because they do keep in touch with us and they pretty much have it together.
We were their age once. In fact, we were their age together many years ago. We did things that were fun, things that maybe we shouldn’t have, and things that we look back on and wonder, “What the heck were we thinking?” We also have some wonderful memories that are a testament to our life-long friendship.
It all boils down to this: From now on, it is their journey. We’ve taught them right from wrong, instilled values, made them feel loved and secure, and have given them tools to survive in this big, bad, wonderful world. Like us at one time, they are in the beginning of building their lives. They are starting their personal journeys, and they have to do it on their own. We just have to remember to butt out. We have to trust them and believe that they are making decisions that are right for them. If they make a mistake, it’s their bump in the road and lessons they need to learn. We just have sit back and love them. Since I know both kids, we are also going to be very proud. Guaranteed.
I can’t wait to see where their journey takes them and what the future holds in store. It’s another step in the parenting process for us, and a lifelong adventure for them.