I’ve been spending a lot of time with dead ancestors lately–all of those relatives who have passed a long, long time ago, but still have a connection through blood. Since today is also the birthday of a sibling who has passed, it just seemed a good day to walk through the tombstones.
Throughout my childhood and teen years, my immediate family lost a grandfather and uncle within a three-month span, and three sisters and a brother within a year and a half of each other. All were sudden, tragic, and traumatic. Visits to the cemetery were frequent, and it was always a place of peace and remembrance. Since I’ve moved away from the burial sites of my loved ones, trips to the cemetery are not possible. It’s always a stop when we visit, though.
In the process of researching my family tree, I found a wonderful website where cemeteries can be visited. I’m so thankful for volunteers who take photos of headstones to help families record their history. Because of their time, I was able to visit great grandparents in Illinois, grandparents and siblings in Ohio, and sixth great grandparents in Maryland. I can remember the ones who are a part of my memories and pay respect to the ones I’ve never met. I plan to visit them all in person in the next few years, but for now I can do the next best thing.
I imagine some would find this activity sad. To me, there’s something healing in shedding a few tears for those who have passed and hold dear a scent, a memory, or an embrace that will always live on.
For some reason this post brought tears to my eyes. Very moving. Thank you for the cemetery link… I think I’ve been there before looking for an aunt of mine that passed some years ago. Cheers.
Thank you. ((hugs))
Thought perhaps you might like to light a candle for them from time to time. Wondered if you’d ever been here: http://www.gratefulness.org/light-a-candle/
What a wonderful idea! I have never seen the website and look forward to talking a look around. Thank you.
I have also been working on my genealogy and looking for extended family. Thanks for the tip on the find a grave website. I will need to check it out.
I have found it to be fascinating and addicting! I have to time-limit myself because I get so engrossed. Good luck on discovering your ancestors!
I have seen that site for grave sites and checked some of my family’s out. I think it is good to remember those that we loved or those that were part of our family that we might never have gotten a chance to know. They are part of who we are.
I agree, Betty. Thank you for reading!
I’ve lost a few family members myself. That’s why I love making scrapbook albums with the old pictures. I’ll have to check out that gravesite link. Thanks for sharing!
You’re welcome. Thanks for reading. I can imagine that your scrapbooks are beautiful!
How tragic for your family to lose so many so quickly. Life can be cruel and unfair, heaping a lot of burden all at once. So sorry you went through that. This sounds like an interesting website. I’ll go check it out.
What a beautiful thing to do.
Thank you. Thanks, too, for reading!
I too always remember the birthday of my older brother, who died before I was born. It was only after my Mum died that we were able to put a stone on his resting place. She found it so painful that she could never go there and didn’t want us to either. But now that the place is marked, and some of her ashes are there too, my Dad and my two sisters find it a peaceful place to visit. I’m glad that you’ve been able to find your own way of keeping in touch with those who’ve passed.
I’m glad that your dad and sisters find it peaceful. I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum and brother. (((hugs)))
Thank you, that’s lovely of you x
I like your attitude. No matter when they passed they are somehow still part of you.
Thank you, Bee. Dawn
Always a part of us. Forever connected.
I truly believe there blood runs in our veins….it is cathartic for me to revisit cemeteries and pay respect to those I never met or have lost in my life span so far….they will always be a part of us…kat
I believe that, too, Kat. Wish I could hear them–what advice they would give. What words of wisdom. Thanks so much for reading and commenting. Dawn
Dawn. i had never heard of this website until today! I downloaded the app on my iPhone and found the graves of several family members! I am so excited about ths app! I, of course, searched for our siblings but didn’t find them, but I did find the graveyard here in Sidney. I added them to the site if you want to check them out. Thank you so much for referencing this website! Love ya Sis!!